Dating Advice For The Workaholic
Is online dating effective if I don’t have a lot of time to dedicate to it?
I get asked this question sometimes from single parents, but I get it a LOT from busy career professionals. How can you build a strong foundation through online personals when you don’t have a lot of time? There’s good news: It’s easier than you think.
The reason a lot of people turn to online dating in the first place is because they don’t have time to go out and meet someone in the real world. The internet is a great place to meet new people in your spare time, and the best part is it doesn’t have restricting time  boundaries. When you first start messaging people, the conversation is usually sporadic and very casual. This lets you both message each other when you have the time, which takes off any unnecessary pressure of finding time to schedule in conversations.
Connecting with a match online is unlike any other form of dating. When you find a relationship organically, you have to find times that are convenient for the both of you to get together and talk. You can’t have a phone conversation where one person says something and the other doesn’t respond for 3 hours, but you can do that on the computer. You still get to bond with the person you’re talking with, but it’s on each of your own times. The need to schedule dates is eliminated, which acts as a benefit because most people find it kills the romance since they’re thinking more of when they can connect, instead of how they connect.
If you get to the point in your online relationship where you are ready to start dating, then you may have to get out your day planner and pencil in some time, but at that point you’re already done with the ‘online’ part of your dating.
Internet dating is great for people on the go with little spare time. Just because you’re busy with work doesn’t mean that you won’t eventually want someone to come home to at the end of long days. It may take a little longer than expected to make that initial connection with someone if you spend minimal time online, but the end result will be the same.
Even if it’s 5 minutes a day you spend online, make sure you’re putting effort into those 5 minutes. You don’t need a lot of time to dedicate to online dating, you just need the spend the time you do have wisely.
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