Holiday Pressure

It’s that time of the year where people spend all of their extra cash on relatives they haven’t talk to in months, spend their extra time hanging decorations in their house that only their cats are going to get to enjoy, and spend their days and nights stressing over the fact that they’re going to be the only person at their work Christmas party without a date.

Believe it or not, statistics show that the more pressure you out on yourself to find a date, the less likely you are to actually find one. Which means when you’re turning to online personals with desperation in mind, you’re going to scare away more people than you’re going to attract!

The best piece of advice you can take when writing a personal add or filling out your online dating profile is to do it like you already have a spouse. People are naturally more confident while in a relationship because they don’t need to worry about impressing the opposite sex. Expected pressures like casual sex and dating are off the table, so you’re free to talk to people and be yourself without having your insecurities hold you back.

If you keep that mentality while writing about yourself and what you’re looking for, you’re going to come across as a more confident person in general, which will make for an inviting profile and will increase your chances at attracting someone.

There’s enough pressure during the holiday season to get the right presents and the right tree and the right turkey; don’t add to that pressure by feeling you need a date. The more you think about it, the harder it’s going to be to find! Put yourself out there in a genuine, confident way, and you’re sure to attract people in a natural, easy way.