Bad Dates– To Ditch Or Not To Ditch?

When you try and transfer the chemistry you have online to a live date, it’s not uncommon for things to fizzle. There’s a lot of pressure on that first meeting and when things don’t go according to plan, people have the tendency to want to leave and save what’s left of their dignity. According to new studies, ditching isn’t only the worst thing you could do for them, it’s the worst thing you could do for you.

When you ditch a date without fair warning, it can weigh on your conscious for a long time. In the moment you simply want to save any humiliation from happening between the two of you, but after you duck out and your actions set in, you’re left feeling remorse for leaving someone you had such a strong connection with online. Even though your connection isn’t as strong when you meet in person, it doesn’t mean you should give up on knowing them.

A lot of the time people find they have chemistry with others through online personals because they have such similar interests. This sparks interest and gives you a strong starting point for good conversation, which people misconceive as a romantic connection. When you meet in person and your physical attraction isn’t as strong as expected, it’s discouraging, but you should keep in mind these key reasons not to ditch your date.

• Don’t throw away the date based on the first few minutes! Sure you may not feel connected to them right away, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t work on it. Nerves and stress are so high on a first date that you often don’t get to fully enjoy the other persons company. There’s a good chance that the reason you’re not feeling those sparks you expected is because your guard is so high, they can’t get through. By sticking it out until the end of your date, you’re allowing yourself the opportunity to get in a more relaxed state, which will better let you judge your chemistry.
• Even though the person may not be right for you, they may be a great fit for one of your friends. If you stay the night to talk to them about their interests and lifestyles, there’s a good chance you’ll be able to think of a friend to set up with this person who you had such high regards for while speaking with online.
• There’s a potential that you can make professional contacts through this person. Networking is a big part of the game in any industry, and if you have similar interests, chances are you probably work in a similar industry. Finding out where they’ve worked before throughout the date and who their friends are gives you the opportunity to build your network of connections to help further your career.
• If all else fails, you might walk away with a great friend! If you’ve met this person and have decided confidently that you don’t have any romantic interest in them, that doesn’t mean that you aren’t still interested in them as a person. Keeping the date going could be the start to a great friendship!

Leaving a date for any reason can leave you feeling bad, but leaving them there without notice will leave you regretting your decision. It’s always best to stick out a date until the end.